Stop trying to change your loved ones

Loved Ones

No one likes to be alone and wants their loved ones to be always beside them. Having at least a person to listen and understand you whenever you need them is a blessing.

However, even a small mistake spoil everything and gave you a major setback. Have you ever thought of why this happens always? Or What might be the best solution for it?

The biggest misconception people carry with them is that they fix ideals around them and try to put it on to their loved ones continuously. They always make sure to make the other person like them and forgets a simple concept of everyone being unique. So, stop judging people and respect the differences to live them freely and happily. Just check out some of the justified reasons to stop trying to change your loved ones.

1. Love their uniqueness

We have always heard the same fact that everyone is unique in their own way but did we just follow it in our day-to-day life? I guess some or other point of life, it becomes easy for us to judge the people rather than understanding their real situations and the problem begins here. We have many issues with them like they are not doing the work properly or they are too weird.

However, you need to accept all the differences and respect it to let them know that you care for them. Love their weirdness at them, tell their importance occasionally by your actions and you will get a person to stand beside you always no matter how the worst the situations may turn out.

Love uniqueness
Love uniqueness

2. Understand the problems

Rather than arguing always, try to understand the situation of your loved ones for at least once. Maybe they are much grounded with their problems and trying to hide in front of you. Or Maybe they are trying to seek the things already, but it is not working. Considering all the possible perspective of the situations happening with the person will not let you argue insignificantly anytime.

The people who love you will not try to hurt you even in their thought deliberately. So, make sure to know them well in the problematic situation and discuss calmly. If you have discovered their problems, try to talk about it and make them out of it. An ideal bond is nothing but the ones that mature well out of the difficult situations in the past.

3. Appreciate the togetherness

No one is perfect and not even you. When the person living with you is not complaining about your bad habit and doesn’t get offended soon by your mistakes, then they are meant to be appreciated. It wholly depends on you how you take on the challenges faced in any relationship.

You always have the two options to deal with the problems happening with your loved ones. First, to argue with them and make yourself at the top and right. Secondly, to figure out the mistake on your side and try to make them correct.

The same situation happens with the person dealing with you. If they are choosing the second option and trying to make the things correct, then you are luckiest one to get them in your life.

Appreciate togetherness
Appreciate togetherness

4. Don’t compare

Yes, there is no point in comparing your loved ones with someone else. Setting criteria of being perfect by looking at someone and then stressing it over to your loved one is not done at all. Everyone have gone through entirely different circumstances in their life and emerged as a unique personality.

You can also give suggestions, and the rest goes with them afterwards. To follow or not is their personal choice, so instead of getting frustrated with the disagreement, try to accept the justification.

Remember everyone is trying to do their best, so listen to their side of the situations and let them do what they really wish to do.

5. Stop the ‘Blame’ game

Blaming each other by making stupid reason is one of the cheapest things you can ever do. When anything goes wrong, the best we can do is to figure out our mistake and try to improve it rather than playing the blame game. The usual mistake people commit is to dig out other mistake and stick to it.

You will never grow in any relations or even individually when you accept the mistake on your side and try to improve it with the passing time. It may be annoying in the beginning but in the future, you will really be appreciated for your growth and personal traits.

To know  more about accepting your loved ones without changing them, you can also refer to:

  1. https://letsreachsuccess.com/2016/02/21/stop-trying-to-change-someone/
  2. https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/10-reasons-stop-trying-change-someone-fiff/
  3. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201402/5-things-try-giving-relationship

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